Why Men Build Walls (and How They Can Break Them Down)
There’s a well-known narrative that men are “strong and silent,” that they can weather any storm without a scratch. But the truth is more complicated. Beneath this armor, many men carry deep scars from childhood, forged through experiences that left them isolated, fearful, or vulnerable. These adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) shape men more than most […]
Your Plate Is Full // Getting past people pleasing
John sat at his desk, staring at the stack of reports he needed to finish before the end of the day. His phone buzzed incessantly with messages from colleagues asking for favors, each ping tightening the knot in his stomach. It was always like this. He couldn’t say no. His boss, Mr. Greaves, walked by […]
Breaking the Mold: Unmasking Perfectionism in Men
In the realm of personal development, an often overlooked but pervasive challenge is perfectionism, particularly in men. Contrary to stereotypes, perfectionism isn’t just a trait found in women or artists; it affects men across all walks of life, from corporate executives to stay-at-home dads. In this exploration, we delve into the nuances of perfectionism in […]
Attachment Ruptures: Navigating the Fragile Bonds of Relationships
In the intricate web of human connections, attachment serves as the invisible thread that binds hearts and souls together. It’s the essence that gives depth and meaning to our relationships, allowing us to share joys, weather storms, and navigate life’s complexities together. Yet, within this tapestry of intimacy and trust, lies a phenomenon often overlooked […]
Unveiling the Silence: Exploring Men’s Shame in Today’s Society
In the intricate tapestry of societal expectations, the phenomenon of male shame occupies a significant yet often obscured position. This nuanced aspect of masculinity, tethered to a confluence of societal pressures, cultural paradigms, and individual experiences, warrants a thorough examination within contemporary discourse. Despite its prevalence, male shame remains a relatively unexplored territory, steeped in […]
Coping with Grief and Loss: Honouring Your Emotional Journey
Grief and loss are universal human experiences that touch every aspect of our lives, including our mental health. However, societal expectations and gender norms often place unique pressures on men when it comes to expressing and coping with these emotions. In many cultures, men are taught to be strong, stoic, and to suppress their feelings, […]
Embracing the Unseen: A Strategic Approach to Men’s Mental Health
In the realm of personal development, the conscientious exploration of the subconscious becomes a pivotal catalyst for profound transformation. Central to this journey is the concept of the “shadow,” a psychological construct elucidated by the venerable Carl Jung. In this discourse, we shall delve into the shadow’s implications from a mental health perspective, elucidate the […]
The Fixation of Performance in the Upbringing of Men in Today’s Society
“Performance based esteem is robbing Men of their vast emotional experience” From an early age, boys are praised for how well they do something, a task or what could be categorized as how well they perform a task. This goes from how well they paint the fence, score the goal in the game, and ace […]
Anger & What It Means
The one emotion that is both all too familiar for Men and also the one in which many Men feel immense shame about feeling or expressing. If we look at Anger from when we’re a child, the emotion of anger is really an act of protest, meaning that when a need of ours isn’t […]
Healing from Complex Trauma: Understanding, Identifying, and Starting the Journey to Recovery
Complex trauma can leave deep emotional scars, but with dedication and support, healing is possible. Identifying the signs of complex trauma is the first step in embarking on the journey towards recovery. Remember, healing is not linear, and it may take time to address the wounds left by complex trauma fully. With the help of […]