The Reflectere

The Rise of Male Loneliness: How Men Can Reclaim Connection

Introduction: The Silent Epidemic of Male Loneliness Despite living in a hyperconnected world, more and more men are feeling profoundly alone. You can be surrounded by friends, colleagues, or even a family—and still feel like nobody truly sees or understands you. This silent epidemic, male loneliness, is on the rise, and it’s far more than just a […]

Understanding Men’s Relationship with Porn: A Path to Healing and Connection

Why Are So Many Men Turning to Porn—and What Is It Costing Them? In our work at The Reflectere Counselling—a practice specializing in Men’s Counselling and Men’s Therapy in Vancouver and across British Columbia—one pattern continues to show up: Men aren’t always using porn for pleasure.They’re often using it for pain relief. Whether you’re a high-functioning professional or […]

Men, Alcohol, and the Unseen Wounds We Try to Numb

A Male Therapists Guide to Helping Men Understand their Use of Alcohol. Title: The Silent Pour: Men, Alcohol, and the Pain Beneath the Surface Meta Description: Many men use alcohol to cope with unhealed emotional wounds. Learn how drinking affects male depression and mental health—and explore a new path through men’s therapy in Vancouver. The […]

When There’s No Funeral: Navigating the Grief of Non-Death Loss as a Man

By The Reflectere – A Place for Men’s Counselling and Therapy in Vancouver, BC You didn’t bury anyone. No casket. No eulogy. No obituary. And yet… something inside you died. Maybe it was a relationship that slowly slipped away. Maybe it was the version of you that used to believe in something. Maybe it was […]

Making Peace with the Fire Inside: A Male Therapist’s Guide to Anger and Healing

The Anger You Can’t Shake Anger is a double-edged sword. On one side, it’s the fire that can push you to stand up for yourself, protect what you love, and demand change where it’s needed. On the other, it can feel like a wrecking ball—breaking relationships, clouding your judgment, and leaving you full of regret. […]

Getting to know your Parts (IFS)

Unlocking Your Inner Strength: How Internal Family Systems Can Transform Men’s Mental Health When it comes to men’s mental health, the journey to self-understanding and emotional well-being can feel overwhelming. Many men struggle with depression, anxiety, and trauma, often feeling like they have to push through on their own. The pressure to be strong, independent, […]

Men’s Mental Health in Relationships

Men’s Mental Health and Building Healthy Relationships Men’s mental health has long been an under-discussed topic in society. Historically, men have been taught to suppress their emotions, avoid vulnerability, and maintain an image of strength and stoicism. While societal expectations around masculinity have begun to evolve, the pressure on men to uphold these outdated ideals […]

Working with the Shadow

A Man’s Guide to Self-Understanding and Growth Introduction: What Is a Man’s Shadow? Have you ever found yourself reacting in ways that don’t seem to make sense? Maybe you lash out in anger over something small, or you avoid deep emotional conversations, even when you know they matter. Perhaps you struggle with confidence, despite knowing […]

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